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Practices For Requesting

for making requests might be when you expected something different from what you got, were treated undesirably, and noticed inner constriction or reactivity. Identify observations, feelings, and values to support finding the request. Ensure your request states what you want, is specific, names the present-tense action, and that you're open to feedback. Read this practice exercise Keywords:...
W.A.I.T: Practices For Presence And Patience

With these practices make space before reacting to emotion or external stimulus. This can enable your capacity to respond from your self-connection to universally shared values. With practice you can create the capacity to temporarily put impulsiveness aside, in the service of connection with yourself and others, and in service of more informed and effective strategies. Read this practice...
A Positive Relationship With Reactivity

of threat and a distortion of what's happening, plus engage and pursue connection and the clarity to weaken reactive impulses. In taking responsibility like this overtime, you can live from your values and from care. And life can get easier for you and others around you. Read this practice exercise Keywords: reactivity responsibility conflict defensive anger LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Setting Intentions with Attention

of meeting our intentions with empathy, we can foster deeper self-awareness and relational connection. Discover how applying NVC to both personal and social intentions can help us align with our values and create meaningful change. Keywords: Kristin Masters mindfulness self judgment personal growth connection empathy self compassion
A Path For Responding To Tragic Decisions

This view arises from fear and an economic system meant to promote and feed off false scarcity. When struggling with this, grieve, receive support, and notice your feelings show you certain values matter to you. From this sense of purpose you can find where you can be of most service. Read this practice exercise Keywords: anger social change injustice LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Taking Care Of Yourself When Visiting Family

also be helpful to imagine repetitive interactions and plan how you will respond; for example with a boundary, honest expression, empathy, or by taking a time-out for self-care. Remember your core values, intention, and how you are committed to showing up in the world. Read this practice exercise Keywords: Christmas family conflict reunion judgement reactivity LaShelle Lowe Charde Elia Lowe...
See Old Relationship Dynamics In Intimate Relationships

use to avoid future pain, and how to make conscious decisions instead. Read on for questions that can help us see if we're making decisions from a grounded place, such as taking time to reflect on values, receive support from others, and getting curious about others' views. Read this practice exercise Keywords: reactivity trauma decision relationship self inquiry avoidant attachment anxious...
Boundaries and Exquisite Self-Care

What do you need to prune the weeds in your relationships? What will you welcome into your space? What are you willing to work with? What will you not allow? Every individual has different values and capacities. A large part of knowing your boundaries is about knowing yourself. In this video, Yvette Erasmus describes how and why exquisite self-care requires exquisite boundaries. Keywords: Yvette...
Taking Responsibility for Your Choices

Trainer Tip It seems obvious to me right now that rhetoric and blaming don’t solve anything. —D.W., prison inmate Sometimes, it just seems easier for us to blame others for our choices. We think that if we place the blame on someone else, we won’t look as bad. Our primary motivation may be the desire to be accepted and valued; however, it’s an awkward strategy to meet those needs. If we don’t...
Being Honest About Our Anger

Trainer Tip Few blame themselves until they have exhausted all other possibilities. —Anonymous When I am angry, it is likely that I am not getting something that I want and that I think I should get, and I am about to say something that will ensure I won’t get it. When we blame other people, we place ourselves in a dangerous position of not meeting our needs in that relationship. Instead, take...