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Change Your Thoughts to Change Your World

today, try to notice when you have judgmental thoughts about yourself or other people. Then try to translate those thoughts into your feelings and needs. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: judgement criticism evaluation attitude relationships influence Mary Mackenzie
Become Willing to Express Appreciation

to another’s life, and I have yet to meet one person who doesn’t enjoy hearing how he has done so. Express your appreciation to at least one person today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: appreciation gratitude Mary Mackenzie
Evaluating Ourselves with Compassion

opportunities for change. Be aware of your negative self-talk today and take a few moments to connect with your unmet needs associated with the issue. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: evaluation self judgement empathy compassion self talk self criticism shame change Mary Mackenzie
Being the Change We Seek

the miracle of transformation happen. Make a conscious effort today to respond to the people in your life the way you would want them to respond to you. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: initiative change self responsibility Mary Mackenzie
Honesty Is the Key

needs that were met or unmet. Request: making a specific and doable request. Notice and act on opportunities to be honest and authentic with someone today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: honest authentic intimate Mary Mackenzie
Empathy vs. Sympathy

issues with clarity and ease. Empathy is a profound healing technique. Be aware of when you are giving someone sympathy rather than empathizing today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: empathy sympathy distinction Mary Mackenzie
Making Demands

and coming to mutually satisfying resolutions. Notice when a request you make today is actually a demand. Is there a way you can change it into a request? This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: demand attachment to outcome rebel submit duty obligation request interdependence Mary Mackenzie
Overcoming Insecurity in Friendships

relief to know what’s going on with the other person, rather than wondering about it. Ask at least one friend how being your friend enhances her life today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Friend Clarify Insecurity Trainer Tip Mary Mackenzie
A Focus on Needs

and deeper connection in our relationships. Be aware of opportunities to focus on needs in order to resolve an issue with at least one person today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Conflict Needs Trainer Tip Mary Mackenzie
Defining Needs

the need from the strategy, the more likely we are to resolve conflicts with ease. Be aware of the differences between your needs and strategies today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Conflict Strategy Distinction Needs Mary Mackenzie
Four Ways to Hear Any Message

we are to ourselves and our needs, the more likely we are to see our choices. Notice the choices you have when you receive someone’s communication today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Judge Blame Self criticism Shame Empathy Presence Choice Mary Mackenzie
Hearing The Yes Behind The No

needs as much as our own and can be a powerful conflict resolution tool. Be aware of at least one opportunity today to hear someone’s yes behind their no. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Conflict Rejection Understanding No Mary Mackenzie
Saying Thank You without Judgment

When you hear “thank you” today, notice how your actions have enriched the person’s life. When you become aware of it, do you experience it differently? This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Thanks Appreciation Judgement Evaluation Mary Mackenzie
Interdependence vs. Dependence/Independence

possibilities in all our relationships. Make a commitment to live autonomously today. Notice where it is a challenge for you to maintain this consciousness. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Interdependent Dependent Independent Autonomy Responsibility Relationships Mary Mackenzie
Defining Enough

others, making comparisons, or denying responsibility for your actions. Notice how these communication patterns affect your connection with other people. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Enough Success Goal Achievement Standards Mary Mackenzie
Life-Alienating Communication

others, making comparisons, or denying responsibility for your actions. Notice how these communication patterns affect your connection with other people. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Jackal Judgements Life-alienating Criticism Blame Comparison Demands Mary Mackenzie
How to Express Feelings

When we are explicit, we have a much greater opportunity to get our needs met. For today, fully express to at least one person how you feel in a situation. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Feelings Honest expression Hurt Anger Fear Resentment Excitement Responsibility Conflict Mary Mackenzie
Enjoying the Jackal Show

we listen to them. Be aware of your inner jackal chatter today and make a commitment to listen for the underlying needs they are trying to tell you about. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Jackal Self-censorship Judgements Empathy Presence Mary Mackenzie
Opening to Intimacy

Acknowledge your need for intimacy, and find people you can trust to love. Notice if your behaviors block your success in meeting your need for intimacy. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: Vulnerability Blocking intimacy Loneliness Mary Mackenzie
Connection, Connection, Connection

Trainer Tip "I want to connect more than I want to be right and more than I want to win!" —Mary Mackenzie Do you get into “right fights”? You know you’re in one when you’re arguing with somebody in order to be right or because you want to win. In these arguments we are rarely trying to connect. Being right is the name of the game. Why do we do this? For many, it is an attempt to meet needs for...