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Getting Beyond Our Self-Defeating Behaviors

would like to change. Notice the needs you are trying to meet before taking action. Then ask yourself if your action is likely to have the desired effect. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: conflict self sabotage serenity being heard being valued approval being liked Mary Mackenzie
Serenity is a Choice

the more serenity we will enjoy in our lives from day to day. Make a decision to live with serenity even if challenging situations arise in your life today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: serenity integrity resilience conflict peace Mary Mackenzie
Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation

I am more productive and peaceful in my work. Notice whether you are primarily intrinsically or extrinsically motivated today. How does this feel to you? This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: intrinsic extrinsic motivation change punish obligation fear values joy money Mary Mackenzie
Being Persistent About Getting Our Needs Met

needs. The trick is to be creative and flexible in choosing strategies. Be aware of your needs today and be creative and flexible about getting them met. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: persistence conflict household cleaning problem solving Mary Mackenzie
Expressing Big Emotions Compassionately

hurt feelings and separation in our relationships. If you feel very agitated or angry today, try screaming in giraffe rather than blaming the other person. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: anger frustration conflict blame expression Mary Mackenzie
Making Your Empathy Guesses More Natural

Join Mary Mackenzie as she offers a simple approach incorporating NVC into everyday conversations. Her observation is that sometimes speaking NVC empath guesses of feelings and needs can feel un-natural or robotic. A possible solution is to slightly shift the way a person applies their NVC skills, focusing on the flow of conversation in a modern way. This technique has become known as Street...
The Relief of Authenticity

before. The possibilities are endless. Notice how often you censor yourself to keep the peace. Then, become willing to express your true feelings and needs. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: authenticity people pleasing codependence negative peace suppression speaking up personal liberation Mary Mackenzie
Power Over vs. Power With

notice you are using a power over paradigm to achieve a result, shift the focus to power with. Notice how this shift in consciousness affects the results. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: power power over power under marginalization force inequality coercion punishment decision making change compliance Mary...
Being Compassion or Doing Compassion

of your ability. By simply setting the intention, you can live the consciousness. Make a decision to be in Compassionate Communication consciousness today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: intention consciousness living NVC doing NVC Mary Mackenzie
Connecting with Others

that will positively affect your experience. Look at your relationships today and see if there are things you can do to positively shift your experience. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: loneliness vulnerability authenticity connection request self responsibility Mary Mackenzie
I See the Spirit in You

her behavior. Remember that behind every action is a desire to meet a need. Be aware of the spiritual being in everyone you meet today—and in yourself. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: spiritual compassion judgement conflict Mary Mackenzie
The Gift of You

to how you are will help you acknowledge and live within this consciousness. For today, respond to each “How are you?” with an honest, thoughtful answer. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: connection small talk authenticity vulnerability Mary Mackenzie
How the 'Stimulus or Cause' Principle Relates to Blame, Anger & Violence

to understand this distinction. Be aware today of times when you are tempted to blame other people for your feelings, and try to discover your unmet needs. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: stimulus cause blame violence punish unmet need Mary Mackenzie
Self Empathy

unlikely to receive the relief and healing you desire. Be aware of opportunities today to empathize with yourself to help clarify your feelings and needs. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: self empathy clarity integrity effectiveness judgement self sabotage depression loneliness healing fear of intimacy Mary...
Mindfulness

mindfulness can be. Connect to your feelings and needs at least four times today. Notice how differently you conduct your day when you are mindful. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: mindful presence Mary Mackenzie
Conflict Resolution

for creative resolution that meets everyone’s needs. Be aware of opportunities to shift the focus from strategies to needs today to resolve a conflict. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: conflict partnership mutual trust Mary Mackenzie
A Hunger For Appreciation

time can deepen your relationship, while helping you meet your need for appreciation. Ask one person today what they enjoy about having you in their life. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: appreciation needs met request Mary Mackenzie
Expressing Appreciation In A Life-Serving Way

life was enriched by your father’s support, without judging him in any way. Be aware today of opportunities to express your appreciation without judgment. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: appreciation judgement evaluation gratitude needs met Mary Mackenzie
Focusing On What You Want

your life, take a moment to shift it to what you want. Be aware of the times when you focus on what you don’t want today, and shift to what you do want. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: blame conflict judgement Mary Mackenzie
The Presence Of Hearing Someone Deeply

is heard, it is then your turn to express yourself. Be aware of opportunities to express a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book, Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: listening presence empathy violence anger Mary Mackenzie