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Addressing Inequalities in Groups Using NVC

by separating the group into two to offer empathy to the two individuals involved. I then brought the group back together and facilitated a dialogue between the two individuals. This offered healing for the whole group, as well as the two individuals involved in the triggering exchange. The Global Majority man had felt pain in how he heard the white man’s message — he needed to be heard and...
What Is In Your Power To Change?

I have been experiencing far more stress than usual for far too long now – and I know I am not alone. Most of my friends, family, and students feel similarly. Can you relate? Underneath my stress are precious needs for reassurance, inner and outer peace, and trust. This also includes a longing for political and world leaders who create policies and make decisions that reflect my values....
The Why And How Of Accessing Grief

Grief is often confused with anguish. Anguish is a painful feeling that comes along with deep resistance to an experience or the truth. Grief that leads to healing is an expansive state. It is a willingness to be with an experience and truth. If you're not resisting grief, then it's a neutral-to-pleasant experience. Pleasant sensations can include a sense of space and relief as something is...
The Lonely Trainer

you don’t receive empathy as well as honesty. If you don’t engage with people on the level of sheer nakedness, companionship, real meeting. I can, yet again, quote Rollo May, who said that every healing starts with empathy, and every growth with honesty. I wish for all trainers, teachers, gurus to find their own intimate communities of empathy, to have their friends who will occasionally smack...
Deal-Breakers and Staying with Yourself

how long does it take me to manage that reactivity and come back to center? What kind of support would enable me to manage this trigger more effectively? Is there a way I can enhance the healing work I am doing regarding the needs that are threatened with the trigger? Am I able to learn from being triggered or am I just recovering from being emotionally flooded? Is the relationship nourishing...
When Someone Doesn’t Appreciate Our Honesty

Trainer Tip Honesty is the first chapter of the book of wisdom. —Thomas Jefferson Not everyone will receive your honesty with joy. If they seem unhappy, this is an indication that they have unmet needs, not that you have made them unhappy. Remember that feelings are a result of met or unmet needs; a situation is only the stimulus of feelings, not the cause. When someone doesn’t appreciate your...
Positive Relationships in Parenting

Roxy Manning emphasizes positive relationships in parenting, while highlighting acceptance and understanding. She stresses the importance of being aware of one's needs, attuning to the other person's needs, fostering trust, and encouraging open communication, especially with children. This approach involves a balance between meeting both sets of needs for a healthier dynamic. Some key points...
Leadership Lessons from the Civil Rights Movement

My life is spent traveling between different lands. There is the land of my NVC family. This land is full of people who have abundant hope, who believe change is possible. Some focus on individual change – making their lives and the lives of people in their families and communities better ‐ while others focus on trying to create change in the systems around them. They all believe that change is...
Love Without Conditions, Control or Coercion

In this compelling, prerecorded telecourse, discover how freedom and autonomy are the basis for all healthy relationships. Kelly provides tools to help anyone improve or create outstanding relationships with others. The critical first step is creating a giving, loving relationship with yourself. Discover how to use "high-octane empathy and self-empathy" to overcome the four great "love-enders,"...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 24

How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are...