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Working with a Difficult Counseling Situation

Clinical psychologist, Robert Gonzales, Ph.D., uses an open dialogue with a practitioner to explore effective, compassionate methods to handle a volatile counseling situation, particularly when the physical or emotional wellbeing of the patient is at risk. Mental health practitioners, mediators and conflict resolution professionals alike will find powerful takeaways from this real-world...
Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC

I. Assumptions Underlying the Practice of Nonviolent Communication Following are key assumptions that NVC practice is based on. Many traditions share these assumptions; NVC gives us concrete, powerful tools for putting them into practice. When we live based on these assumptions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy. All human beings share the same...
Meeting Our Need for Support

Trainer Tip My mind is over-taxed. Brave and courageous as I am, I feel that creeping on of that inevitable thing, a breakdown, if I cannot get some immediate relief. I need somebody to come and get me. —Mary McLeod Bethune We all need to reach out for support sometimes, and we may feel embarrassed to let others know how down in the dumps we are. We may value our image or our need for...
Empathy

In this audio recording, Sylvia Haskvitz, veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, offers an in-depth discussion of the Nonviolent Communication process of empathy. Included is clarity about what empathy is and is not, information about the presence suggested to maintain empathic connection and the healing attributes of empathy, as well as: How to know when you have lost empathic connection The needs...
Expressing Anger Peacefully

In this prerecorded telecourse, Raj Gill uses an interactive dialogue to help you transform old habits and to develop a new, and profoundly healthy response to anger. While cultural norms often teach us to suppress or control anger, Nonviolent Communication suggests that doing so ultimately keeps us from meeting our needs. Raj offers practical insight and proven exercises to use anger as a...
Sociocratic Meeting Facilitation

Access this complete 6 session course Do you ever feel frustrated about making decisions and getting things done, and long for a way to work together in connection AND achieve effective outcomes? Would you like to learn to facilitate effective and efficient meetings that nurture connection, equivalence and mutuality, while producing decisions that leave participants feeling energized and...
Embracing the Body

Access this complete 6 session course When Dian works with managers, they often ask how they can manage others more effectively. She almost always asks them: how are you managing yourself? This question applies to all aspects of life, both at work and at home. How are you: 1) gaining clarity around your needs; 2) managing your internal reactions; and 3) clarifying your requests before you open...
Living in the Observation as a Daily Practice

Everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need …. Really? The other day, I was in a gathering and I ran into a woman two times. What I mean is, I looked up and she was right there and we were standing so close that I was startled. After an hour at this event, I was pulling out of my parking place. I looked both ways and waited for a car to go by and then pulled out of my parking...
Different Types of Requests

Ask the Trainer Dear Trainer, I have heard of different types of requests from listening to various trainers, such as requests for connection, for presence, for action, for clarity, for information and so on. I am finding this list of requests helpful in connecting my needs to the actions that might meet them. Could you share a list of requests, with examples of each, and a possible strategy...
Transforming Painful Patterns

Common Obstacles to Success Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Here are common pitfalls: Trying to change a pattern while playing it out Focusing on changing a behavior, usually quickly and forcefully, without empathic listening to ourselves (our needs and feelings in particular) Grounding our motivation for...