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Stimulus vs. Cause

Trainer Tip People are disturbed not by things, but by the view they take of them. — Epictetus Feelings are a result of met or unmet needs, not the actions of other people. Hard to believe? Consider what can happen when a dear friend punches you in the arm as a greeting. You might be happy to see him and you enjoy the punch in the arm because your needs include fun, friendship, and connection....
Making A Connection In A Difficult Situation

Trainer Tip The fountain of beauty is the heart, and every generous thought illustrates the walls of your chamber. —Francis Quarles I often hear this question in my work: “What is the single most important thing I can do to defuse a conflict?” My answer is always the same. “Hear the feelings and needs of the people involved.” Whether there is the potential of physical or emotional violence, the...
Mindful Inquiry

These mindful inquiry exercises and tips are for enhancing self-empathy, and empathy for others. Using emotions and needs card decks provided, learn to reflect and enhance trust and connection through intentional practice. You can choose to download the card deck set you can cut by hand, or the one that can be printed on Avery’s perforated business card paper Read this practice exercise card...
Finding Our True Self

Trainer Tip The greatest thing in the world is to know how to be one’s own self. —Michel Eyquem de Montaigne Many years ago, I reached an all-time low in my self-esteem. I really thought that I didn’t deserve love. I realized that I had spent years running from this belief, striving for more promotions and recognition so that I could hide my deep fear that I was a worthless human being. I was...
Three Necessities for Integrating NVC

Inspired by a talk given by Marshall Rosenberg, Jim offers an interactive exploration of powerful strategies for making NVC an integral part of your everyday life. Topics include: Remembering the Purpose of NVC The Shared Power of Gathering Support How to Support Yourself with Regular Practice This recording is from the Taste of Compassionate Leadership monthly videoconference. {attachment:all}...
Recovering from Reactivity

Join CNVC Certified Trainers Jim and Jori Manske for this session that will help you minimize your reactivity and live in greater choice. This recording is from the Taste of Compassionate Leadership monthly videoconference. {attachment:all} Keywords: taste of compassionate leadership requests reactivity feelings awareness observation community acceptance facilitation sharing NVC practice...
Self-Connection Meditation

Stephanie Bachmann Mattei leads you through an 8 minute meditation designed to develop a more integrated body and feelings/needs awareness. Keywords: meditation self connection presence needs feelings Stephanie Bachmann Mattei
Control

I believe we’re seeing in the world the inevitable effects of the temptation for us humans to use our intelligence to control – Nature, people, groups, nations, ourselves — and control so easily slides into domination, oppression, and exploitation. It’s inevitable what happens in the paradigm of separation and materialism in which we live. Control makes us feel safe in an uncertain,...
Enemy Images Process and Exercise

Ask the Trainer Dear Trainer, What guidance do you have for working with enemy images? Can you say some things about processes and/or exercises that can bring relief from this trap? Namaste, —K.M., California, USA Trainer Answer and Practice Exercise The first step is to recognize when enemy images are present in our minds. Often I find that these images operate at a semi-conscious level,...
Serenity As A Consciousness

Trainer Tip I am at peace with the community of life. —Louise L. Hay Serenity doesn’t mean that everything in our lives is smooth. It means that no matter what is happening, we have faith in a higher purpose. Serenity is a choice. I used to experience emotional highs and lows. Then one day, a friend said to me: “You know, I don’t get it. You say that you have a full spiritual life, yet you hit...