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touches on the following key differentiations of NVC: Needs vs. strategies Protective use of force vs. punitive use of force Requests vs. demands Keywords: consciousness demands feelings needs observation protective use of force requests strategies connection inspiration personal growth OFNR universal human needs Wes Taylor
How to Interact with an Angry Practice Group Member

vulnerable in the position of leading a practice group because you need support in that situation? Other than checking with yourself and what you need empathy for, I’d also sort out what exact observations you can find behind what you word as: Find the Observations "This individual speaks and acts in a manner I interpret as angry and controlling, and not aligned with the principles of Nonviolent...
The Communication Difference

Yoram Mosenzon shares an exercise and demo to explore the process of identifying observations and using judgments (jackals) to find the needs. Keywords: Yoram Mosenzon classical NVC exercises/practices jackal show observation judgment empathy guess needs
Nothing but the Facts

whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing. —Don Miguel Ruiz Observation free of judgment, evaluation, or a story about why somebody said or did something is critical to creating a connection with others and maintaining a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. There...
What is Nonviolent Communication?

even when other people involved are not familiar with the process." —Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D., Founder of Nonviolent Communication The four components of Nonviolent Communication are: Observations—observing a situation without moralistic judgment, or diagnosis. Feelings—expressing to another how you feel without assigning blame. Needs—expressing to another which of your universal needs are...
Poetic License

exercise that's sure to incite laughter in your NVC group! (This game originated from Doug Dolstad) Instructions: In a group circle, everyone has a piece of notebook paper. Everyone writes an "observation" phrase across the top of the page ("When I see/hear _______"); and folds the paper over so that what they have written is hidden. Each person passes their paper to the person on their right....
Enemy Images Process and Exercise

How do you know this? Usually when you are upset and telling yourself that another person "should" be different than the way they are, you have an enemy image operating. 2. Write down an observation of what the other person did or said that was the stimulus for your upset. Keep this simple — often just a few words will suffice. Be careful to state only the facts in the form of observable...
How To Stay Grounded In A Reactive Moment

To shift reactivity by moving yourself from the position of experiencer to observer, name what’s happening. This can help you access other skills for managing reactivity. Also, create a strong emotional anchor. Read this article Keywords: reactivity anchoring centering practice self inquiry LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde
Timing of a request

else, or consider something else this person could do to help you meet your need. One of the most important aspects of a request is that it be expressed immediately after you have stated your observation, feeling, and need with regard to a particular situation. Let’s say that you are picking up your wool sweater from the dry cleaner. Your sweater arrived as a size twelve but now it is a size...
The Heart of Conflict

integrates the skills and consciousness of empathy, honesty and self-connection in the context of becoming a "third presence" with others who are in conflict. Topics include: Focusing on observations, feelings, needs and requests to support people in taking responsibility for their own experience, and being compassionate with themselves "Pulling by the ears" to help people hear the observations,...