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Different Types of Requests

Ask the Trainer Dear Trainer, I have heard of different types of requests from listening to various trainers, such as requests for connection, for presence, for action, for clarity, for information and so on. I am finding this list of requests helpful in connecting my needs to the actions that might meet them. Could you share a list of requests, with examples of each, and a possible strategy...
About Self-Requests

Listen to Yoram Mosenzan discuss requests. He asserts that we can make requests of others and that we are making requests of ourselves throughout the day. The thing that has the biggest impact is how I make requests of myself. Keywords: Yoram Mosenzon doing NVC requests strategies needs
Practices For Requesting

Practice making requests for feedback, clarity, and action. Opportunities for making requests might be when you expected something different from what you got, were treated undesirably, and noticed inner constriction or reactivity. Identify observations, feelings, and values to support finding the request. Ensure your request states what you want, is specific, names the present-tense action,...
Creating the Life You Want With Powerful Requests

Kashtan and gain a greater sense of power in your life as you learn to ask for what you want and deepen your connection with others. Themes of the course, Creating the Life You Want With Powerful Requests, include: Part 1 – Why is it Hard to Ask for What I Want? Explore the internal and interpersonal dynamics that make asking for what we want the most challenging aspect of self-expression in...
The Importance of Making Requests

such a limited lunch hour and I’d like to know if I should go ahead and order, or just wait a few more minutes.” Notice that there is no request with this statement, only what you would like. Requests are a specific action to help you get your needs met. There are two kinds of requests. One is for action, asking someone to do something specific such as washing the dishes within a half hour. The...
Connection Requests

Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can...
Making Empowering Requests (Not Demands)

rather than a demand. Clarify and connect your request to your needs. Check your motivations. Use a phrase, question, or empathy guess to connect to the person if they say “no”. See sample requests for actions, offers, and for deepening understanding. Read this article Keywords: connection request demand hearing a no action request request Katrina Vaillancourt
Making Requests and Avoiding Demands

Sylvia Haskvitz offers a practical and effective approach to making requests. Learn the two questions that can clarify your motivation for making a request, three ways to discern a request from a demand, and five possible reasons for meeting requests. The difference between a request and a demand is only clearly seen when the other person says "no". Read this Practice Keywords: requests demands...
Parenting Series: Understanding Requests and Demands

Through an inspirational dialogue, Inbal demonstrates how we can stay in a dialogue even when our children say, “No” simply by viewing the situation through our “Giraffe Glasses.” Keywords: requests connection requests demands empathy presence requests compassion judgment families parenting disagreement is progress Inbal Kashtan
Clarifying Our Requests to Meet Our Needs

it meet your needs if your wife only asked you to talk about your feelings twice a week? Or would you like her to never ask you how you are feeling? What is enough? Our job is to clarify the requests we make of ourselves and the people in our lives. In doing so, we should make our requests specific, doable, and immediate. For instance, a wife could say something like: “Honey, I’ve really had a...