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Making Requests for Respect

other's intentions before believing your thoughts. You can also make a clear request for what specifically you want to see happen instead. Read on for more. Read this article Keywords: respect requests connection requests criticism insult rude care LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Elia Lowe Charde
Understanding The Obstacle of Limiting Beliefs With Regard To Making Requests

When you attempt to make a request what limiting beliefs come up? See if you recognize any from this list. Then compassionately observe your body sensations, impulses, feelings, needs, memories, energy, and images. In making the request ensure your request is connected to your needs, is doable, what you want, and not attached to them saying yes. Read this article Keywords: request limiting...
Crafting Connection Requests

Try this four step exercise for making connection requests to support understanding, and to learn what effect your words had on the listener. In this exercise you'll choose a situation where you have clarity about what outcome will really work for you (your solution request), but where you imagine your desired outcome may not work for the other person, and/or are not sure there is sufficient...
Distinguishing Life-Serving Boundaries From Requests

For effective dialogue clarify your needs, boundaries, and requests beforehand. Setting boundaries is telling someone what you're going to do in order to meet or protect needs for yourself or others. Whereas with requests, even if you have preferences, you still hold open curiosity about strategies to collaborate with others in meeting needs. Read on for more. See this article Keywords:...
Tips on Making a Request

garbage can if he’ll be out of town. When you make a request in a compassionate relationship, everyone’s needs are considered and valued equally. The final tip is to get into the habit of making requests. Everyone wants to give and receive compassionately. Don’t you enjoy contributing to people’s lives? They want to contribute to yours as well. Give them the gift of your request. The worst thing...
How to Use Positive Language When Making Requests

Yoram Mosenzon suggests that when we make positive language requests, we tell people what we want. We give them an image of what would make life more wonderful. What we usually do is tell people what we do not want. This tends to create resistance. For example: How do you feel when I say Stop asking me questions all of the time? What about if I say Would you be willing to write down your...
The Difference Between Needs and Requests

so I ask my partner to help me clean the house. The need is universal; the request is a specific method by which we meet the need. Be aware of the difference between universal needs and specific requests today. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: consciousness needs requests strategies relationships awareness...
Loving Someone For Who They Are And Still Making Requests

If someone asks you to love them as is, try wondering what contributes to their need for acceptance. Loving someone and empathizing with them, doesn't mean you can't make requests for change. Recall that your requests are about your needs, not about them. Understand that requests may not be met due to lack of resources or skills, even if the desire is there. Clarify how important the request is...
Understanding How Shame Hinders Clear Requests

It may be challenging to hear or make requests when you feel shame regarding anyone's feelings and needs. Without support, shame could be debilitating, so you may feel resistant and become defensive, hear threat, or criticize others. Instead, be with people who allow space for vulnerability. Find ways to celebrate, negotiate, be mindful, accepting, and creative. Read this article Keywords:...
Unpacking OFNR - Requests

Many believe it's only a true NVC request when we can ask for what we need without urgency or insistence. But what if we're the target of oppression and hate in a world with systemic inequality? Is it still nonviolence to abdicate power by allowing the person enacting harm to be the one to decide whether harm continues? The intensity of the need, degree of harm, and how chronically unmet the...