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Sherlock Holmes of the Heart

CNVC Certified trainer Sylvia Haskvitz: "People have often said to me, 'Can you say that again? Can I clone you and bring you home? I want to be able to sound like that.' In response to your requests, I collected over 70 scenarios and respond to them using “street” giraffe. These situations are universal and apply to anyone. People have found this recording very helpful." Keywords: consciousness...
Preparing for Difficult Dialogue

You can focus on any of these six areas that most often escape your awareness: anchoring and staying grounded; boundaries; thoughts and beliefs; stuckness or attachment; feelings and needs; and requests. Read on for a list of questions to help you focus on how to do that. Read this article Keywords: practice difficult conversation checklist Questions self inquiry anchor grounded boundaries...
Lonely Together

two layers of meaning to create connection: the content and the needs the speaker is holding. When we are able to recognize this --and ideally engage open-heartedly, with curiosity, make clear requests, imagining what they want, no matter how their expression was framed -- we have more opportunity to support the longevity of our relationships, and to decrease our loneliness when together. Read...
Keys To Building Trust After Broken Agreements

Building trust involves each person taking responsibility for what they want by identifying their needs, and making specific and doable requests that open a negotiation. Identify in what contexts you already have trust, what you want to be able to trust, and how you may be blocking or cultivating that trust. Making requests for specific actions of what to do differently can also help. Read this...
From Domination to Partnership

and eye-level dialog with people who we perceive to have more power? Kirsten Kristensen creates a practice of humanizing ourselves and others through empathy, practicing scary honesty, and making requests that serve both persons’ needs. Keywords: Kirsten Kristensen domination empathy scary honesty requests partnership
Deal-Breakers and Staying with Yourself

When navigating any relationship, you might find yourself asking if it is okay to have particular boundaries, to decide that particular behavior is a deal-breaker, or to make certain requests. You ask, “Should I expect this need to be met? Or, “Am I supposed to be okay with this behavior?” Unfortunately the state of mind that asks questions like these is not the state of mind that can answer...
Judging and Feeling Judged

request to support those needs. In this process, Miki distinguishes between needs and strategies to reveal abundant choices for supporting your life. Keywords: empathy honesty needs presence requests self empathy anger blame connection judgment self compassion families relationships Miki Kashtan
Expressing and Receiving No in NVC Consciousness

works with participants' real life situations, demonstrating how to give and receive a "no" from a consciousness of interpersonal connection. Keywords: demands empathy feelings needs presence requests self empathy compassion self compassion conflict resolution relationships authenticity vulnerability enemy images intensity triggers John Kinyon
Avoiding “Right Fights”

to help you meet your need. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: fighting self restraint expression honesty requests strategies conflict resolution choice authenticity responsibility Mary Mackenzie
Committing to Full Understanding

you assume what someone means and check it out with him. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary Mackenzie's book Peaceful Living, available from PuddleDancer Press. Keywords: expression honesty requests strategies authenticity assumptions understanding Mary Mackenzie