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Stoking the Fires of Joy

Access this complete 6 session course In this course recording, explore ways to nurture and maintain greater depths of joy by focusing your attention on gratitude. The reward? To increase your ability to live fully present to the joy in life, even in the midst of pain. Listen to this audio recording and you will: Learn ways to express and receive gratitude Live with renewed energy and savor...
Listen to the Universe

Listen to the Universe is a fun group exercise to explore how we focus our attention and interpret what we experience. How it is played: Ask for a volunteer and ask them to leave the room. Brainstorm possible tasks for the volunteer while the volunteer is out of hearing distance. Start with a fairly easy task the first time. Ideas for easy tasks might include: taking someone's shoe off, picking...
Empathy Hurdles

me. The very root of empathy resides in this fundamental shift. Whenever someone’s actions are at odds with our own needs, most of us, most of the time, do the latter. In that way, we keep our attention on ourselves rather than on the other person. We cannot be in empathy when we are focused on how things affect us. Read this article Keywords: empathy presence spirituality authenticity Miki...
Knowing Ourselves

behaviors are often contrary to our values. We long to be heard, so we yell louder. If we thought it through, however, we would see that yelling is not an effective way to be heard. We may get attention, but we are rarely heard or enjoyed. What is your greatest need? Maybe it is for acceptance, understanding, love, connection, or to be heard. What are you doing to manifest the satisfaction of...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 6

anything? Is there more? Saying back to someone what you have heard them say and making guesses about their feelings and needs does some important things: It demonstrates that you are paying attention and you care about what they have to say It helps them organize their thoughts, find clarity, and feel understood It gives them space to process their feelings and needs and calm their nervous...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 12

time. Bring the memory and feelings into your heart (it does not work to think your way into the living energy of needs). Imagining breathing in and out of your heart is a good way to bring your attention to your heart. If you cannot think of a time when that need was met for you, then bring to mind a person or thing—such as a pet or a place in nature—that contributes to fulfilling that need,...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 22

for you: Inner Parent; Inner Grandmother; Inner Elder; Compassionate Companion; Highest Self; etc. Spend some time each day (even a few minutes helps, more is better) giving yourself nurturing attention from the position of your Inner Leader. Welcome all the parts of yourself, give them empathy, send them love, acceptance, and compassion and tell them nurturing messages (see below). Build your...
Choosing Whom We Empathize With

Trainer Tip "The pain is the aversion. The healing magic is attention. Properly attended to, pain can answer our most crucial questions, even those we did not consciously frame." —Marilyn Ferguson I have learned that empathizing with some people does not meet my own needs for connection, rest, or joy. This may be because my own needs are so great or because I have other, more pressing needs...
Embracing Leadership within Yourself

instead of let it run us. Get some powerful leadership tools you can put to use today. What does it really mean to take leadership of your own inner life? In simplest terms, it’s about paying attention and noticing every time you’re tempted to see yourself as a victim. And it’s about choosing to embrace an attitude of responsibility and proactive engagement with life instead. Although you...
Can the Social Order Be Transformed Through Personal Practice? Part 1 of 2

rather than challenging it -- making NVC one more tool for compliance. NVC principles can turn against its own purpose in cruel ways. NVC could also empower social change. We'll need our attention on this matter if we are to contribute to transforming the oppression we face and our collective march towards extinction. Read this article Read part 2 here. Keywords: social change systemic change...