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Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

Listen to John answer an NVC Library member's question about what we can do when we habitually place other's needs ahead our own. Healing and change can be reached through compassionate self-connection, needs awareness, mourning and mindfulness. Keywords: mourning needs requests self empathy strategies connection self compassion self connection mindfulness safety universal human needs John...
Owning Your Own Experience

about 10 minutes per day to journal, using this template, in order to support “owning your own emotional experience.” Begin with an intention to be gentle with yourself in a process of self-connection. Remember a time today when you felt a sense of constriction. Write a brief description of what happened. (the Observation) Explore your emotional experience. First, notice your physical sensation...
Being the Change We Seek

meetings the staff wasn't connecting with one another as much as I wanted them to. This didn’t meet my needs for integrity because Compassionate Communication had taught me how to create deep connections. I felt a great deal of pain around this issue for months. Then, one morning I woke up with a message running through my head: “Mary, if you want deeper connections, then connect! Don’t expect...
Healing and Reconciliation

in conflict with. During this exercise, you’ll role play both yourself and someone you see through an enemy image. Healing and Reconciliation Process This process facilitates healing and reconnection where emotional hurt and pain exist between two or more people. You’ll learn how you can move past perpetrator vs. victim / punishment vs. restoration / oppressed vs. oppressor models. Making Amends...
Empathy

an in-depth discussion of the Nonviolent Communication process of empathy. Included is clarity about what empathy is and is not, information about the presence suggested to maintain empathic connection and the healing attributes of empathy, as well as: How to know when you have lost empathic connection The needs you meet by offering empathy to another What blocks empathic connection What fosters...
The Cause of Our Feelings

to be our unmet needs. Yet again I have also heard NVC trainers say that we need to be aware of "what we are telling ourselves" or of "the story we are making up" about a situation. Where is the connection here? It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation, and my addiction in the moment to my strategy (more story). And...
What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

might be feeling seems intrusive and scary for them? Any ideas would be welcome. Trainer Answer In response to your request for advice, you could try some silent empathy as well as some self-connection. First self-connection, acknowledging to yourself how you feel when you see the reaction of the people you referenced (perhaps confused, frustrated?) because what needs of yours are not met...
The Basics of Partnership Parenting Using NVC

can support a family culture where cooperation, trust and peace are nurtured, and children and parents can flourish together. Are you longing to nurture a relationship with your child based on connection, trust and everyone's needs mattering? Would you love to learn ways to ground your responses to in-the-moment triggers in your deeper parenting values? Do you want to deepen self-connection and...
Navigating Conflict

Access this complete 6 session course Use Nonviolent Communication and mediation skills to transform conflict into connection. This course recording is ideal for anyone who wants to contribute to mutual co-operation and effectiveness with adults and children, in business or with family and friends. Lessons cover the essential elements needed to weave connection during conflict, including:...
How to Open Your Holiday Presence

Though the holidays are supposed to be a time of connection and celebration, emotional pain and suffering may arise, even in the midst of the festivities. Before painful situations arrive, you can build resources that will enable you to bounce back more quickly. You can have more balance, perspective and choice by training yourself to include attention on needs that are satisfied and by deeply...