NVC Resources on Anger
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The Value of Taking a Step Back
things up in a discussion with your loved one? To be able to stop and take a step back — a time out — before the frustrated yanking occurs? If your time out could be taken before the intense anger and frustration surfaces, the tangles would be far easier to unravel, wouldn’t they? Instead, what I sometimes do is to take space with a “huff,” implying with my body language and tone that “she is...
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Developing Discernment
Once each day, write down a message you found difficult to hear... Imagine receiving the message and then internally responding with each of these choices: 1. Judgmental (Jackal) Ears Out Voice of Anger Blame or criticize the other person "It's your fault." "You are _________." "You should ______." Write how you might talk to yourself with this choice. Consider what needs may be met with this...
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Developing Patience
yesterday...what would you like to do differently today? For example, if yesterday you noticed that you felt impatient when someone else started speaking before you finished and you reacted with anger, what would you like to do instead today? Keywords: consciousness exercises/practices presence dialogue intention relationships self connection community interdependence belonging awareness...
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The Empathy Factor in Workplaces Where People Thrive
power in workplace settings Developing meaningful collaboration that really works Generating increased organizational or team effectiveness Harvesting conflict into productivity Healing workplace anger, guilt, fear and shame Experiencing more joy and meaning through your work Learning the ten Key Principles to needs-based workplaces that thrive Profiting with people, not from people Creating...
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Speaking the Unspoken Conversation
as well as yourself. If you’ve puzzled about how to hear what’s really going on and are weary of that noisy inner talk – and If you’d love to learn how to successfully handle feelings of fear, anger, guilt and shame – then open the door to the wisdom, hope and healing you’ll receive in this unique course. In Speaking the Unspoken Conversation, Arnina will help you tap into the vulnerability...
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Tips for the Road Series Tip 13
the paper, the magazine, and make space in your calendar to learn how to be with just you No. 3. Spend Time in the Wilderness The natural world can be a very healing place to work through grief, anger, fear, loss, and other difficult emotions, as well as to feel vital, inspired, and expansive. The wilderness reflects back to us our beauty and wildness and reminds us that we belong to something...
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Self-Empathy
people until we understand ourselves. I tried to escape this for years. I told people that I was a caring and loving person. But deep down, I struggled to feel compassion. I was consumed with anger, resentment, and an overriding belief that I was never going to be happy. It wasn’t until I looked at my own inner critic (known as the jackal in Compassionate Communi¬cation) that I started to heal....
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Tips for the Road Series Tip 24
emotional and judgmental reactions. A disowned part is any aspect of you—positive/golden or negative/dark— that wasn’t acceptable to express when you were a child. Disowned parts include Emotions: anger, sadness, excitement, sexual arousal, or joy. Characteristics or traits: competitiveness, shyness, empowerment, playfulness, vulnerability, beauty, adventurousness, introversion, or extroversion....
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Engage Your Curiosity
because they never took a moment to ask for clarity. I suggest a new process. Engage your curiosity by asking the other person what is going on. For example: “You know, when you expressed your anger just now, I felt baffled because I thought we had agreed last week to buy a Honda, so I’d like clarity. Do you have different information that has caused you to change your mind about buying one?”...
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Setting Goals for the New Year
What if your goal is to support world peace by living your own life more peacefully? Consider the specific ways you will do this, such as learning Nonviolent Communication, taking a course on anger management, working a twelve-step program, or seeing a therapist. If your goal is to contribute to world peace, your actions can be very specific and concrete. Avoid focusing on what you don’t want,...
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