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I Want to Leave When Facing Anger

Receiving anger from another can be a reactive trigger for many of us. In this brief segment, Arnina provides us a strategy for staying in the conversation instead of physically leaving. Keywords: anger strategy fear triggers connection requests Arnina Kashtan
Transforming Anger

Anger is one of the feelings that tell us we are thinking in a way in which we are disconnected from our needs; and from the Source of life within us; and in a way that is almost guaranteed to not create the connection and cooperation to meet our needs. It also seems to be a reaction tied strongly into the fight-flight survival response at the core of our biology as living organisms. For this...
Responding to Anger

or attempt to talk your friend down from their judgments, thereby escalating the situation. Disagreements can also ignite curiosity and celebration. Read on for more. Read this article Keywords: anger reactivity collusion boundaries defensive venting listening LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Elia Lowe Charde
Transforming Children's Anger

resentment, pain, for all. Read on for an example of how empathy transformed a child's impulse to hit another child. Read this article Keywords: sibling rivalry conflict family parenting children anger empathy physical violence Inbal Kashtan
When Someone's Anger Stimulates Fear for My Physical Safety

CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan tells us to look to our inner dialogue and the other's needs when we're feeling fear of physical violence that's been stimlated by someone's anger. {attachment:all} Keywords: demands feelings honesty presence strategies personal growth relationships honest expression authenticity vulnerability fear NVC in relationships self acceptance emotional safety...
How the 'Stimulus or Cause' Principle Relates to Blame, Anger & Violence

animosity or registering wrongs. —Charlotte Brontë Violence is a result of thinking that others caused our pain and deserve to be punished. When living from this consciousness, we believe that our anger is justified. Consider road rage. A driver who engages in it believes that the other person is driving badly or is trying to tick him off, so he tailgates, makes hand gestures, or worse yet,...
NVC Life Hacks 4

Anger is an emotion we'd often like to disown! Shantigarbha offers us five tips for "finding the life" in our anger, and ends with a short, guided reflection. Keywords: presence relationships tips partnership anger Shantigarbha Warren
Wishing For More Maturity & Skill In Others

In some situations you might expect people to show a degree of maturity or skill. When they don't, your anger-fueled response doesn't lead to lasting improved relationship change. Instead, find someone who retains focus on your feelings and needs rather than colluding with you about what should(n't) be. This can support greater acceptance, grief, vulnerability, groundedness and discernment,...
NVC Life Hacks 39

We live in a world where there is a lot of anger. It can be a strong and intense emotion that we feel or receive from others sometimes on a daily basis. Whether that's an agitated partner, road rage, or a disgruntled colleague. While we're familiar with this feeling, we're not necessarily well equipped with how to express it in a healthy way. In this month's Life Hack, Shantigarbha takes us...
Alarm Feelings

Anger, guilt, shame, and shutdown are often based on reactivity and “should” thinking. They narrow and distort perceptions, which can bring more suffering. So instead, feel them without resistance, nor acting on them. Bring clarity by naming your observables and thoughts, plus your underlying vulnerable feelings, needs and self-responsibility. Then mourn what needs were, or are, unmet. Only...