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Exercise On Self Responsibility

your observations, evaluations, feelings, longings, and more. When we identify what's truly ours we are unlikely to mistake it as coming from outside of us. Self responsibility is not self blame. Without self responsibility, we project, blame and judge. Self-responsibility is central to clarity and full self-awareness. This exercise will guide you there. Read this practice exercise Keywords:...
Group Feedback

changes? If in answering these questions, you had difficulty acknowledging that he/she was a stimulus for your feelings and experience and not the cause, (in other words you are wanting to blame or criticize) you need empathy for what is going on for you. A question to ask yourself: W. A. I. T. — Why am I talking? Do I want to correct or connect? If I want to correct, I need empathy. After that...
Enemy Images Process and Exercise

to mind when you remember the observation. As we playfully say in NVC circles, "let the jackal show play out." Actually have fun with it and be as uninhibited as possible, writing down any form of blame, criticism, labels, and even outrageous assumptions. 4. Recognize that you are not your thoughts! You may be having these thoughts, but you are much more than your thinking. Differentiate...
Embracing Jackal Thoughts

is not whether certain words are a thought or not, but rather what is the consciousness from which these words arise. My guess is that we focus as much as we do on thoughts of negative judgments, blame, demands, etc. because such thoughts more often than not contribute to separation and fear rather than to connection and trust. Still, even a thought such as "It's a beautiful day" could...
Taking Responsibility for Your Choices

Trainer Tip It seems obvious to me right now that rhetoric and blaming don’t solve anything. —D.W., prison inmate Sometimes, it just seems easier for us to blame others for our choices. We think that if we place the blame on someone else, we won’t look as bad. Our primary motivation may be the desire to be accepted and valued; however, it’s an awkward strategy to meet those needs. If we don’t...
The Four D's of Disconnection

CategoryMeaningBehavior/ExampleForm DIAGNOSIS Who is what? Judging, labeling, criticizing "You are lazy and only care about yourself!" You are ____________. DENIAL OF RESPONSIBILITY Who is to blame? Denial of choice, blaming "I have to do what the boss says!" You have to _________. DEMAND Who has power? Implies threat of punishment "Get that proposal out by 5 pm! (or else you will be suspended)"...
Bridge the Gap

facing 21st century parents Find clarity by creating a map of your family constellation Identify stuck patterns and the changes you want to make Learn techniques that will help free you from blame and judgment {attachment:all} Keywords: beauty of the needs empathy argument blame compassion connection healing judgment listening love trust families parenting relationships first session free family...
Peace Is Possible

peace at home, at work and in the world. Through using NVC and Appreciative Inquiry processes, you will learn simple steps to: Prevent, resolve and contain conflict by dissolving enemy images and blame mentality Appreciatively inquire and build a positive outcome along the way Develop an attitude of gratitude for opportunities to resolve conflicts and make a difference Keywords: strategies blame...
Enjoying The Process

in three weeks and I’m feeling disappointed and confused about this. I miss that aspect of our intimate life. Do you miss it too?” Notice that we express our need (intimate life) without placing blame on either party. The request (do you miss it too?) opens the conversation so we can hear the other person’s needs. When we approach situations without preconceived ideas and take the time to check...
Taking Responsibility For Our Requests

reason your needs don’t often get met has something to do with you? I used to think this, but I would reassure myself that there was nothing wrong with me. Somehow it seemed more comfortable to blame other people for their inability to meet my needs properly. Then I started to notice that people did exactly what I’d asked, and my needs still did not get met. This was the stage of my emotional...