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Inoculation For Outrage

of all life on the planet (which is also my wellbeing and the well being of those I love)? Read this article Keywords: outrage polarization conflict culture war reactivity resignation defensive blame John Kinyon
How to present "harm being done" in an NVC way

in one of Roxy's class: how do we use the term "harm" in NVC? Roxy offers questions to think about how to deal when someone says "harm is being done". Keywords: social change Roxy Manning blame harm observation needs not met unmet needs
Choose Your Words

defense and how to shift that to more authenticity, understanding and trust. Read this ebook Keywords: healthcare neurodivergence authenticity understanding defensive mental health OFNR empathy blame responsibility Melanie Sears
Judgment and Radical Compassion

this has somehow been translated into right/wrong thinking. In this video, Aya explores different kinds of judgments and examples of each. Keywords: Aya Caspi deserve comparison threat fear trust blame guilt morale shame
It's Not Just Me

as a core value of all patriarchal societies Shaming as a core socializing strategy Tips for offering immediate freedom and relief by bringing attention to the systemic context and releasing self-blame The either/or of freedom and belonging Practices for moving towards integration and inner freedom Session 2: Reclaiming Interdependence Why we need others: transcending self-sufficiency as a core...
It's Hard to Communicate When My Partner Drinks

Miki Kashtan hosted Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with a a woman whose relationship is challenged by what happens when her lover drinks. In this segment, Miki encourages the caller to get support for her stress, find an outlet for it and receive empathy. Miki addresses the challenges of addiction, the self-judgment of trying to...
Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

Two of the most supportive things parents can do for their children are healing their own attachment trauma (thereby further developing their own neural pathways for emotional regulation and secure attachment) and reclaiming disowned parts. The more that parents do these two things, the wider their windows of tolerance will be for big emotions, intense experiences, and difficult situations, and...
Mourning Unmet Needs (The Art of Letting Go)

"Hold on to your anger and use it as compost for your garden." - Thich Nhat Hanh Recently I was feeling very angry and resentful. I felt this way for a couple days. I have learned that when I judge others it only contributes to anger and resentment. Despite knowing this, I kept judging this particular person. By doing this I only added more drama to the story I was creating in my mind. I...
I Want to Repair a Relationship, But I am Scared

Miki Kashtan hosts Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with a mother who is experiencing a strained relationship with her recently married daughter after a verbal “attack” from the daughter. Miki guides the caller to connect with her feelings of fear and her needs for ease of connection, and to further connect with her daughter’s needs....
Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings

This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?” Faux Feeling Feeling(s) Need(s) Abandoned...