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Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

When bullying occurs, if we do our own healing, our brains can become more sharp and present and willing to take action to connect and to begin to shift and mitigate the harm that trauma does in our world. We can reduce trauma inflicted upon others when we recognize the patterns of abuse and bullying, hold zero tolerance for it, bring in support for both sides of the conflict, and take action...
Independence vs. Interdependence in NVC

For us to have a more peaceful world and relationships, growing our skills to engage interdependently is key. An Interdependence-oriented person may choose to attend to both inner factors and outer factors that affect their own and others' experiences. Unfortunately, this is likely to be misunderstood by independence-oriented people as enmeshment -- and this is where conflict emerges. Read on...
Finding Freedom In Marriage

Marriage can be seen as a limit on freedom. Ideas of compromise collude with this view. Instead, notice when your "yes" to your partner is laden with obligation, duty, guilt, fear, or an attempt to win love or approval, and how it's not a truly free "yes". True freedom is different from compulsion, and doesn't conflict with other needs. When have you experienced true freedom? What conditions...
Israel - Palestine, And - And

Amidst the Israel/Palestine war we see polarizing media portrayals and the battle for public opinion. Read how one person shares his deep, personal connections to the Israel/Palestine conflict, expresses the trauma and viewpoints of both Palestinian and Israeli experiences -- in a way that aims to transcend polarizations, hold compassion, and understand the complexity on both sides. Despite the...
Saying "No" in a Positive Way

Hearing "no" can bring emotional pain, but it can be delivered in a way that minimizes discomfort. We can find the gift in the request, express feelings and needs instead of saying "no," and offer an alternative solution that supports all parties. This approach fosters honesty, respect, and understanding, while setting boundaries if necessary to protect oneself. Clear communication reduces the...
Navigating Systemic Change

In this excerpt from Roxy Manning's 2019 Social Change session at the NVCfest, she explores the application of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to address both immediate conflicts and broader systemic issues. She emphasizes the importance of intervening at multiple levels, from stopping harmful behavior in the moment to driving long-term societal change. The discussion highlights how NVC,...
From What's Fair to What's Possible

So many of us have been taught to solve conflicts by what is “fair.” However, Miki Kashtan states that fairness is a separating concept. In this video, she describes how when we do not have the conditions to care for all needs involved, when we live within separation, fairness is second best. Keywords: Miki Kashtan capacity limits fairness needs support agreements
Strengthening Parent-Child Connections

Discover how fostering strong attachment and connection with your child can lead to fewer conflicts and more harmonious interactions. Ingrid Bauer offers practical guidance on using empathy, self-connection, and consistent care to create a secure and loving environment for your child. Open the Handout Keywords: Ingrid Bauer NVC parenting attachment empathy self connection captions searchable...
Staying Connected with Yourself While with Family

This audio training with expert trainer Rita Herzog explores the NVC alternative to family relationships: stay grounded in your own needs and values so you are able to reach out with empathy to family members. Sound easy? Listen to what Rita has to say about her own pattern in her family and see if you can relate. Rita says, “As a child, I did not hear my family talk about feelings, so I was...
Choice in Every Moment

This 31-minute audio with Miki Kashtan is packed full of power as she uncovers the dynamics of choice that are present 100% of the time, in every situation, regardless of the circumstances. She encourages us to reach for a consciousness that acknowledges our ability to choose how we respond even in the face of another’s demands. She carefully looks at both sides of demands, our demands of...