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Greeting the Holidays with an Open, Joyful Heart

Many of us have our cars checked / tuned-up regularly, yet we all too easily forget about checking in with ourselves – especially during the holidays. Let’s face it: the stores and malls are crowded and everyone’s tempers tend to be shorter… Folks are rushing madly to finish last minute shopping or catch a plane that’s suddenly over-booked… Others may be driving for hours in bad weather just to...
Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

Two of the most supportive things parents can do for their children are healing their own attachment trauma (thereby further developing their own neural pathways for emotional regulation and secure attachment) and reclaiming disowned parts. The more that parents do these two things, the wider their windows of tolerance will be for big emotions, intense experiences, and difficult situations, and...
A Focus on Needs

Trainer Tip "Judgments, criticisms, diagnoses, and interpretations of others are all alienated expressions of our needs. If someone says, 'You never understand me', they are really telling us that their need to be understood is not being fulfilled." —Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D. Imagine that your wife comes home from work and you ask her to go dancing and she says, “Oh no, not tonight, honey....
Dialogue within Communities

Access this complete 4 session course Dialogue is a life-changing, heart-opening experience. It’s collaboration instead of compromise. Join Miki for a practical, step-by-step framework to help you understand how a community develops, how to maintain or repair a community, and how this unique process creatively supports you and each member of your community in getting things done. With Miki as...
It Takes a Community to Raise a Relationship

It Takes a Community to Raise a Relationship "For thousands of years we have gathered in a circle around fires, around bodies, around altars because we can't do this alone." —Wayne Muller Thirty-four of us are packed into infinite darkness and penetrating heat. Water is generously poured over red hot rocks and the steam pushes me deeper into my hidden places. This is the third and hottest of...
Does Anyone Deserve Anything?

Our world trains us to think in terms of providing for everyone’s needs because they deserve it, earned it, or they possess the resources -- it's fair, socially just, supports equality or because people have rights. Instead, can we step outside this worldview to look at providing for everyone’s needs because those needs exist -- can we hold this basic reverence for life? Are we able to have a...
How to Hear Difficult Messages

Trainer Tip For several centuries now, we have overemphasized the intellect. It is fine in its place. It is not, however, the most authentic way of knowing. The most authentic comes from the heart. —Sonia Choquette Have you ever been sitting home reading or watching TV, enjoying your space and peacefulness, when your partner comes home and says something like, “Aren’t the dishes done yet? I am...
Specificity Is the Key

Trainer Tip No legacy is so rich as honesty. —William Shakespeare Do you sometimes feel frustrated about situations in your life, while being too embarrassed to make a specific request, or perhaps annoyed because you’d really like the other person to “just get it”? I recognize this dynamic when I hear someone say to her partner, “I want you to help out more around the house.” Often when someone...
How to Energize Compassion in Yourself and Family Members this Holiday Season

This holiday, shift your focus from what disappoints you to the true whisperings of your heart. Compassion is an inside-outside process. It starts with acknowledging what’s important to you and then naturally flows from you. In this telecourse recording, you will experience four simple tools for savoring your own precious needs, allowing you to experience greater compassion and harmony this...
Navigating Tense Conversations

Here are some options for tense moments in conversations: try a "redo", understand and recognize your habits, pause to regroup, empathize with the person so they feel heard, check your mind frame before speaking, and name some appreciations about one another. Read this article This article was originally published on Oren's Website: https://www.orenjaysofer.com Keywords: Conversation Conflict...