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Connecting with Others

Trainer Tip If God seems far away, who moved? —Unknown Do you sometimes struggle to connect authentically and vulnerably with others? If you find yourself in a relationship that is unsatisfying to you, look at how you participate in it. Is there anything you can do differently? I used to feel very lonely and sad because my relationships weren’t as satisfying as I wanted them to be. When I...
How To Create Supportive Conditions For Sharing Vulnerably

Sharing more vulnerably provides opportunities for fulfilling connection. As social beings we rely on feedback to see our effect on others. We can get that feedback through body language, facial cues and words. To expand your capacity to share more vulnerably you can create supportive conditions and timing. You can ask for feedback by making in-the-moment requests of others and yourself before...
Making Empowering Requests (Not Demands)

Use this worksheet to check to see if you’re making a request, rather than a demand. Clarify and connect your request to your needs. Check your motivations. Use a phrase, question, or empathy guess to connect to the person if they say “no”. See sample requests for actions, offers, and for deepening understanding. Read this article Keywords: connection request demand hearing a no action request...
Connection Requests

Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 2

There are two types of requests in the practice of Nonviolent Communication: Action Requests and Connection Requests. Both are important when working through conflict or difficult situations and for building connection. As its name suggests, an action request includes a very specific action that someone can perform to meet a need. For example, you might have needs for connection and peace of...
Crafting Connection Requests

Try this four step exercise for making connection requests to support understanding, and to learn what effect your words had on the listener. In this exercise you'll choose a situation where you have clarity about what outcome will really work for you (your solution request), but where you imagine your desired outcome may not work for the other person, and/or are not sure there is sufficient...