The NVC Tree Of Life

and self connection (opening our heart to self and/or others). It also offers some suggestions for how to say these things to self and others. Read this article Keywords: intention connection dialogue NVC tree of life Inbal Kashtan

Liberation For All

build an understanding of patriarchal roots; confront lovingly; co-hold dilemmas about privilege; co-shape outcomes; etc. Read this article Keywords: power privilege liberation honest expression dialogue conflict oppression defensiveness confrontation Miki Kashtan

Create Choiceful Listening

considering their choice, resentful listening might result. Here are ways to mindfully check in about choiceful listening before starting a conversation. Read this practice exercise Keywords: dialogue being heard consent LaShelle Lowe-Charde Elia Lowe Charde

Is NVC Always One-on-One?

Ask the Trainer Dear Trainer, I'm finishing up a toolkit on dialogue and deliberation and am including NVC in the conflict transformation section, but I am lacking any stories of actually transforming conflict in a situation of violent conflict between groups. (I have great "one-on-one" stories, of course.) Are there any that you could share? Or is that the wrong way to think of the work of...

How to Use NVC with Talkative Friends

Parenting Series: When Your Child Only Has "No" for an Answer

of Parenting From Your Heart, Inbal Kashtan responds to the age-old question: “Why do children do things to annoy parents?” Using jackal and giraffe puppets to illustrate common parent/child dialogues, Inbal answers other common questions like: What do I do when my child is “obstinate?” Why does my child thrive on not participating? Why does my child seem to want negative attention? These...

Tips for the Road Series Tip 6

Start adding this question to your dialogues and discussions, "Can I see if I understand you?" Most times, people say yes to this question. Who does not want to be understood? However, in some situations it can help to state your intention first, “It might help us work through this if I make sure I'm understanding you. Do you mind if I tell you what I have heard so far?" If the answer is yes,...

Using Conflict to Reflect on Fulfilling My Needs

I am not fulfilling or attending to the needs that I want others to fulfill. When I shift my own actions and behaviours to better attend to my needs, sometimes my conflicts resolve without any dialogue between me and the others involved. Other times shifting my own behaviours and also dialoguing with the others involved seems to work best to resolve the situation. I can’t always see how the...

Tips for the Road Series Tip 24

How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are...

Separating Observations And Evaluations

the results are not. Often times, when we mix an evaluation and observation, we promote defensiveness in other people. When we are able to separate the two, we are more likely to promote an open dialogue about our concerns. Be aware of your evaluations and observations today. Try to separate the two to create more opportunities for open dialogue. This trainer tip is an excerpt from Mary...