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Idiomatic vs. Formal Compassionate Communication

Trainer Tip Every thought is new when an author expresses it in a manner peculiar to himself. —Marquis de Vauvenargues Do you sometimes feel awkward when you use the four components of Compassionate Communication (observation, feeling, need, request)? The four components are a tool to help people interact with others in a connected and compassionate manner. Formal use of the language is very...
The NVC Model

The more we practice NVC by “rote” --going through OFNR (“Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests”) on automatic-- the more likely our NVC practice would lead to disconnection. The purpose of our NVC practice is to use this NVC "map" (OFNR) to support us in integrating the consciousness of the NVC (eg. operating with the intention to connect, collaborate, etc). Once we let the map drop away, we...
Naturalizing NVC Language

Access this complete 7 session course Learn to speak NVC using your own voice and increase ease and flow in all your personal and professional conversations. This 7-session telecourse recording with renowned trainer Miki Kashtan is designed to help you integrate NVC into all aspects of your life by gaining fluency in your practice of NVC and by embodying the principles regardless of the words...
Repair and Heal Disconnection in Relationships

We all blow it sometimes. Maybe we are triggered and react in ways we regret. Or we unknowingly say or do something that unexpectedly touches a nerve for someone else. Either way, how do we heal the disconnection? In this session, you'll learn how to integrate skills for repairing relationships. Jim and Jori Manske are leading first with a self-connection meditation, then move on to practice...
Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

There's reactive anger - the sudden outbursts of words, temper or action that create a nervous system response in another. And then there's the anger that's a reaction to someone's anger -- a nervous system startle-response. Instead of either of these, we can learn to heal with empathy, look for unequal power dynamics, take responsibility to make repairs, and shift into the clean, life-serving,...
Four Types of Feedback

Trainer Tip Here are four different ways you may offer feedback, followed by the four ways you can hear any message: What's wrong? Destructive Criticism: Demeaning, depreciative, punitive intending to tear a person down. What's right? Constructive Criticism: Timely, sympathetic, supportive, explicit, instructive, problem-solving, intending to build the person up. Feedback by demonstration: We...
Developing Discernment

Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices. Discernment Exercise: Using the "Four Choices" for Self-Empathy Once each day, write down a message you found difficult to hear... Imagine receiving the message and then internally responding with each of these choices: 1. Judgmental...
How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect

Think of a stimulus -- something you did that triggers you to not think kindly of yourself. A time you made a "mistake." Write down what you said or did. Recall what you said to yourself or what you guessed you said to yourself when you made the “mistake.” Write down as much as you can remember. Mourn (Distinguish between mourning vs. blaming. Mourning is full attention focused on needs. It...
Integrating NVC

Access this complete 6 session course Does NVC seem like a good idea, but not practical in the real world? Do you feel frustrated when you find yourself in the same jackal scenario over and over again? This course will guide you toward integrating NVC into all aspects of your life. Provided in 6 parts, this course aims to deepen understanding about the arenas in which NVC operates. Once in a...
Self-Empathy

Experience the remarkable healing power of self-empathy, guided by CNVC Certified Trainers, Mary Mackenzie and Raj Gill. In this audio course, the trainers lead participants through a demonstration, and then supplement the learning with discussion and answers to questions. In one exercise, Mary Mackenzie demonstrates the difference in ruminating about something that has happened that you don't...