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Using Anger as a Warning

Trainer Tip Act nothing in a furious passion. It’s putting to sea in a storm. —Thomas Fuller, M.D. If you are feeling anger, you are experiencing an unmet need. When you recognize it as a warning signal, it can be a life-serving tool. There is no hard and fast rule that we must instantly react to our anger. Nor is there a statute of limitations on expressing it. So, rather than react to your...
Demands vs Requests

Trainer Tip "Life is short, but there is always time enough for courtesy" ——Ralph Waldo Emerson When you demand that someone do something, their only choice is to succumb or rebel; they either do what you asked or they don’t. Sometimes, a demand can look like a request. You say, “Honey, will you please mow the lawn today?” It sounds like a request, but notice what happens if your partner says,...
How to Create Your Own Teaching Activities

Listen as Mary Mackenzie shares an eight step path to create your own NVC learning activities, based on your own NVC learning experience. In this session, Mary uses the value of requests and observations as teaching examples. 8 Easy Steps for Developing Teaching Activities Opening premise: Borrowing teaching exercises from other people can be fun and easy. However, when we develop our own...
How To Deal With Ourselves When We Are Less Than Perfect

Think of a stimulus -- something you did that triggers you to not think kindly of yourself. A time you made a "mistake." Write down what you said or did. Recall what you said to yourself or what you guessed you said to yourself when you made the “mistake.” Write down as much as you can remember. Mourn (Distinguish between mourning vs. blaming. Mourning is full attention focused on needs. It...
Meeting Our Need for Order

Trainer Tip We see the same colors; we hear the same sounds, but not in the same way. —Simone Weil I used to work with a man who didn’t use file cabinets. He had stacks and stacks of files and paperwork on his desk and credenza. I felt overwhelmed when I came into his office and I was filled with judgment about his disorganization. Then I noticed that I could ask him for a particular document...
The Spirituality of Nonviolent Communication

Access this complete 6 session course Discover how the perennial strength of compassion and the living energy of needs can help you develop resilience in order to remain present with yourself and others amidst today's challenges. Fully empower your place and engagement in life, cultivate and strengthen your center. The center is where your values lie, your heart center, and the center of your...
Fundamentals of NVC

Access this complete 8 session course Feeling frustrated about the stress that is present in your life and in your relationships? Then consider the following: the way you speak – and how you hear others – significantly impacts the joy and stress you experience in each of your relationships. If you are ready to get beyond the emotional triggers that goad you into responding in counterproductive...
The Amazing Power of Empathy

Access this complete 4 session course Have you ever had the experience of being truly heard and understood by another person? Or felt the astounding, breath-taking connection that arises when someone sheds all preconceived notions, gives you their full presence, and really sees you? We call this The Amazing Power of Empathy – and the power does not stop there. Cultivate thriving interpersonal...
How to Express Gratitude and Appreciation in Intimate Relationships

Yoram Mosenzon shares how expressing specific and authentic appreciation can deepen connection in intimate relationships. He emphasizes the importance of making clear observations without judgment and connecting with the feelings and needs that arise from meaningful gestures. Yoram highlights how gratitude becomes a celebration of life, enriching relationships and fostering deeper...
Parenting Series: The Importance of Self-Empathy

Inbal offers parents and anyone with children in their life a lucid discussion of the important role self-empathy plays in creating healthy, supportive relationships. Are the strategies you're using right now supporting your goals for the relationships you want with your children? In this introduction to the NVC principle of self-empathy, Inbal uses an interactive dialogue and simple...