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It Takes a Community to Raise a Relationship

It Takes a Community to Raise a Relationship "For thousands of years we have gathered in a circle around fires, around bodies, around altars because we can't do this alone." —Wayne Muller Thirty-four of us are packed into infinite darkness and penetrating heat. Water is generously poured over red hot rocks and the steam pushes me deeper into my hidden places. This is the third and hottest of...
How Do I Begin Bringing Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to Work?

Jeff Brown explains that it's truly easy to begin bringing NVC to your workplace. Start internally and avoid using NVC as a structured or "right" way to speak. And also, two low-risk, high reward strategies are: express gratitude and appreciation for others, and regret or mourning about what you would have like to have done differently. Keywords: empathy feelings honesty self empathy compassion...
Blame, Responsibility, And Care

One NVC principle is "stimulus vs cause" - our may be the stimulus but never the cause of another's feelings. When we're upset this principle can help us express pain without blame. However, when others are upset it's easy to slip into blaming them using this principle. Instead, we can hear their pain with care and heartfelt mourning - without guilt nor defensiveness, and whether or not we...
The Value of Just Being

Trainer Tip I can still remember my mother clutching her heart, threatening to have a heart attack and die, and blaming it on me. —Anonymous Every single being in the Universe is here for a reason. Even me. Even you. I used to think that my value came in what I did, rather than who I am. As a result I spent much of my life trying to prove my worth to myself and other people. That meant that I...
In Robert's Words, A Journey of Gratitude

Robert's passion was in the spirituality of the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process. He saw NVC both as a process that helps people connect more authentically with themselves and others, and as a spiritual practice and way of living. The worldwide NVC community mourned when Robert died in 2021. He left behind a legacy of work that emerged from a lifetime of inquiry into the intersection...
Looking at “Shoulds”

Using real-life examples from class participants, Sylvia Haskvitz demonstrates the life-changing results of clarifying the needs underlying "shoulds." Some of the situations covered in this audio are: A grandmother shares how she was able to spend time with her grandchildren even when experiencing estrangement from her daughter A father examines how to repair a conversation with his daughter A...
Parenting from Your Heart - Q&A

Please join us as we pause and remember the work and life of Inbal Kashtan, a beloved trainer, who died on Saturday, September 6, after seven years of living with ovarian cancer.As a way of honoring Inbal, we're offering her last training with us free to anyone. She offered this Q&A session in our 2013 Parenting Conference. At the time, Inbal was in the throes of her cancer treatments and it...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 13

This Tip for the Road is my answer to the question: What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships. No. 8. Follow Your Dreams and Find Your Purpose Keep doing what you love. Keep inspiring yourself. Keep living into your deepest...
Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

In this moving reflection, Rachelle Lamb honors Marshall Rosenberg’s true vision for Nonviolent Communication—not just as a tool for personal transformation, but as a catalyst for deep social change. She reminds us that inner work alone is not enough in a world facing ecological collapse, rising suicide rates, and widespread displacement. Quoting Rosenberg, she calls on us to remember that our...
The Long-Short Way, And The Short-Long Way

Many times I’ve attempted to take a shortcut, and the project, or the route I was taking, ended up taking longer. I’ve noticed the high cost of this approach especially in interpersonal situations. We avoid a conversation because we don’t want conflict, but the avoidance -or the shortcut- ends up costing more in time, energy, and emotional grief because we weren’t willing to take the time at...