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Living Without Enemies

this phenomenon, primarily outside personal relationships. You will examine your own “enemy images,” consider whether you are ready to transform them, and get support for maintaining a practice of peace inside yourself. In this session you’ll learn skills and practices to: Humanize others through a rigorous commitment to seeing their needs as separate from their strategies Connect directly to...
The Sweetest Game in Town

you interpret as cooperative or respectful? For example: "When you practiced your violin today for twenty minutes without a reminder from me, I felt so happy because I appreciate cooperation and peace between us. I was also excited because I love sharing music with you." Like anything else in using NVC, the precise language is not important. What matters is the intention to express our...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 2

and for building connection. As its name suggests, an action request includes a very specific action that someone can perform to meet a need. For example, you might have needs for connection and peace of mind and ask someone, “Would you be willing to call or text me when your plane lands?” Or, you might have a need for support and ask a friend, “Would you be willing to help me move next...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 3

is one in which you won’t be doing what someone has asked of you, I suggest finding something else to offer to that person, if possible. For example, you might say, “I really need more rest and peace right now, so I’m not willing to host the family reunion. However, I am willing to find a caterer.” Keywords: self restraint empathy requests strategies contribution responsibility self...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 13

parts might never be fully reclaimed, but there is much to be gained by continuing to build a relationship with them. Reclaiming disowned parts is crucial for relationships. If you do not make peace with your disowned parts, they will do battle with you and with others, fighting to be acknowledged, heard and valued, and blocking your path to inspired relationships with yourself and others. When...
The Gift of Compassionate Giving

Ph.D. Can you imagine that? What would the world be like if there was flow between all of us based on "mutual giving from the heart"? Can you think of a more effective and reliable strategy for peace than making sure everyone's needs are met reliably and abundantly? Are there any models for us to follow that could inspire this quality of compassionate giving and receiving? Read this article...
Transforming Complaint

Uncomfortable feelings are caused by an unmet Need. What do you Need in this situation? As you connect to the Need, open to the possibility that something could contribute to your need. Pause in Peace... Requests can be of another person or yourself. When the request is of yourself, it’s a transformation from complaint to commitment. When the request is of another, it’s a transformation from...
Nonviolence Is A Process, A Journey

with both sides of a conflict, encouraging each side to empathize with the other, and then seeing what solution can arise, working together to meet the needs of both sides. This, it seems, is how peace is always made in the world, and it is the essence of the Mediate Your Life approach, a framework, maps, and skills to bring this process to any type of conflict, inner and outer. But what is...
Resistance

the unalterable reality of the past and present). Mother Teresa would often say that all who are caught up in this system suffer — the wealthy with emptiness and lack of meaning, connection, and peace as well those with lack of resources. So instead, what happens if we refuse to play this game, and instead play the one that is about true wealth and power — deep relationship, loving and caring...
Control

separate and disconnected, and ironically anxious, and depressed, we feel. The more we control the more we are cut off from empathy and care for others. With connection and aliveness come joy, peace, happiness, fulfillment, love, beauty, awe. But also what comes is the panic of vulnerability, the ability to be hurt, to suffer and die, to lose what we love in heartbreak. How willing am I to...