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Inspired By Meeting A Greek God

If you have to tell people you are, you are not” Doubting our own power and beauty, and then wasting our lives in trying to prove it to ourselves and to others by crowing endlessly, is a result of trauma, of course. A lack of unconditional love, appreciation, acknowledgement, welcoming… in our early years that taught us that we need to deserve love, that we need to be this or that in order to be...
Longing For The Company Of Not-Knowers

most of us seem to be, but it is also heartbreaking to be aware of this deeply wounded human civilization of ours as a whole. Reminds me of Gabor Mate who said that we will probably not find a non-traumatized person on the planet anymore, apart from perhaps a few in well-hidden indigenous cultures. A civilization of beings walking around with deep wounds and scars from our childhoods, doing our...
Myths Of Power With

of people who had been living on the streets, who had been having addictive relationships with substances, who had a different relationship with reality than most, or who suffered from severe trauma. As much as it may seem like abandoning the dream to decide to keep some people out, it seems to me that it’s more honest to recognize that sometimes we simply don’t have enough love and attention to...
Why I'm Grieving the Loss of Both Israelis and Palestinians

of being white and Jewish in the United States. I’ve avoided entering the thicket of debates regarding Israel-Palestine, knowing how they can call up such strong emotions, stimulate profound trauma, and make it harder to build community and practice across the lines that divide us. But today my heart is breaking, out of universal values for peace, dignity, and respect, my commitment to...
Beyond the Limits of Empathy

interviewed soldiers who shot Palestinians, subjected them to prolonged physical torture, or killed them during the first Intifada. They spoke of the same difficulty. Despite a felt sense of trauma from having inflicted harm on others they continued to do so. The most common reasons that allowed them to ignore, overcome, or numb out their empathic responses to the people they harmed were fear of...
Understanding and Healing from Bullying, Giving and Receiving

When bullying occurs, if we do our own healing, our brains can become more sharp and present and willing to take action to connect and to begin to shift and mitigate the harm that trauma does in our world. We can reduce trauma inflicted upon others when we recognize the patterns of abuse and bullying, hold zero tolerance for it, bring in support for both sides of the conflict, and take action...
Becoming Regenerative

empathic connection and cooperation. I see unhealthy and destructive conflict coming from systems of thought and belief that circulate through the collective human mind as well as the depths of traumatic emotion in the body. At the leading edge of our evolution, and engaging the root of our predicament, it seems to me a regenerative mindset is seeing ourselves as one with the whole of life on...
The Murky Waters of Asymmetric Relationships

about her. I just keep revealing my wounds to this perfect professional. OK, this might sound funny, but imagine a setting when it is not about teeth, but emotions, fears, patterns of thinking, traumas, core beliefs… And then the projections and transference kick in. The client, participant will tend to subconsciously project feelings towards the therapist, trainer, perhaps experiencing how...
The Lonely Trainer

with empathy for many, many years. She was teaching it, she was receiving others with empathy, but not experiencing it herself.. How can you ever heal yourself from your own wounds and scars and traumas, if you don’t receive empathy as well as honesty. If you don’t engage with people on the level of sheer nakedness, companionship, real meeting. I can, yet again, quote Rollo May, who said that...
Tips for the Road Series Tip 23

and G. Maté Your Resonant Self, S. Peyton I’m new to his work, but I believe Rick Hanson has much to offer Articles/Interviews The Long Shadow: Bruce Perry On The Lingering Effects Of Childhood Trauma The Geography Of Sorrow: Francis Weller On Navigating Our Losses What Ails Us: Gabor Maté Challenges The Way We Think About Chronic Illness, Drug Addiction, And Attention-Deficit Disorder Videos...