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Contributing to Emotional Safety Without Giving Up Honesty

only come from the autonomous honest generosity of your heart. And it requires groundedness and skill. When you are truly attuning to emotional safety, you come forward from a consciousness that trusts that creating a particular quality of connection is the best strategy to honor and meet all needs present. You are willing to take the time needed to create that quality of connection because you...
How to Ask for Space

request for space as a form of rejection or lack of caring. You notice this conflict repeating itself in little and big ways. You want to be able to ask for space and know that the other person trusts your caring. It seems these needs are in conflict. Needs are never in conflict; the conflict resides in the strategies to meet them. When you have multiple strategies to meet a single need, you can...
How to Handle Being Judged

are triggered by things you say or do? Is that accurate? I'm wondering if the "jokes" have charge for you because you would like to hear the feelings and needs beneath the joke so that you could trust the connection? Do you feel skeptical when you hear a joke, when you sense there are feelings that the person is uncomfortable sharing? Sometimes, when we're unable to hear another person's message...
What’s Important to You?

of the main group). I ask each group to respond to the question, "What is important to you?" I mention that I'm looking for one-word responses. I usually give them a couple of examples (family or trust). I ask that one member of each group be the scribe for the group, to write down the responses. I give them about 5 minutes for this small group exercise. Part 3 (sometimes about 15-20 minutes) I...
Creating the Life You Want With Powerful Requests

someone's less than wholehearted, free YES, so we don't ask. In this session learn how to make a request in such a way that it's easier for another to say NO, and how to engage with a YES we don't trust. Part 4 – The Solution Will Find Us if We Focus on Connection If we gear up to ask for what we want, we usually are quite focused on the outcome. If another person is similarly focused on a...
Is NVC Always One-on-One?

through connection with all the needs that were identified by different people at different times. And the process of engaging with the conflict contributed to more people experiencing safety and trust that their needs mattered too. I hope this helps! —Miki Kashtan, Oakland, CA, USA Keywords: connection healing inspiration leadership groups teaching NVC Miki Kashtan
Confidentiality Agreement

made a request that other members of the group not use her name in connection with information that she might share in the group. When asked what needs of hers were behind this request, she said trust and security. In response, one of the members said he felt angry when he heard her request, which appeared to him to be a demand (to which I personally agree). He said he had a need for freedom and...
Hidden Needs

that have to do with the quality of relationship you have with the person who angered you. That opens another set of needs. In the case of the dishes, you may need consideration, support or a deep trust that you matter, etc. I have found that often we think we are angry about some particular thing, but the main upset is about the quality of the relationship. If truly all that mattered was the...
The Unconscious Mind Compared to the Conscious Mind

that the unconscious is vast compared to the conscious mind. When I state "needs," how well can I depend on there being something beneath my awareness that is actually the motivation? Can I trust that when I or others I'm empathizing with state our "needs" there is not some unknown unconscious need operating? —D.N., Indiana, USA Trainer Answer Dear D.N., I see several issues here that I would...
Embracing Jackal Thoughts

is that we focus as much as we do on thoughts of negative judgments, blame, demands, etc. because such thoughts more often than not contribute to separation and fear rather than to connection and trust. Still, even a thought such as "It's a beautiful day" could contribute to separation in some contexts. Just imagine that I am sharing something of deep pain and meaning for me, and you respond to...