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Tools to Support Relational Attunement

Yvette Erasmus shares Terry Real's grid as a tool for exploring a spectrum of emotional responses. We all have feelings and sometimes we get dysregulated or frozen up. How do you want to express and be in connection with other people? Can you attune to the relational context that you are in? Keywords: emotional regulation self regulation boundaries Yvette Erasmus
Using Right & Wrong Language

Yvette Erasmus shares that we can translate or shift how we hear right and wrong language. We can use the cue - What is needed? I wonder what they are needing? This helps direct my attention to more relationality. Keywords: language of life needs consciousness right wrong language Yvette Erasmus
Self Regulation - Moving Outside of Triggers

Yvette Erasmus shares practices to help us develop a regulated nervous system. We all get hijacked and triggered at some point. When that happens we can travel a blame and shame road or we can greet ourselves with graciousness and self compassion. It sounds like: I didn't have it in me today. I am a work in progress. I want to develop this skill so I will keep practicing. Keywords: nervous...
Experiencing Feelings Outside of Right & Wrong

Many of us have been raised within a right/ wrong culture. From very young ages, we are asked, "What is wrong?" Yvette Erasmus shares a different view where emotions can be seen as expansion and contraction, where they can help us identify our needs. I celebrate feeling frustrated because it makes me feel alive and connects me to my needs. Keywords: feelings body awareness Yvette Erasmus
Make Peace With All Your Feelings

Yvette Erasmus suggests that making peace with our feelings reduces suffering. Sometimes we want to hurry through our feelings and just feel better. A nonviolent way of working with our feelings is to be present as our feelings change. We will notice that as needs are more met or unmet, our feelings will change. Instead of asking why I feel this way, ask what is this feeling telling me....
Faux Feelings

Yvette Erasmus shares her interpretation of the difference between "faux" feelings and feelings. "Faux" feelings imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. Keywords: OFNR feelings faux feelings Yvette Erasmus
What is the Cost of NOT Setting Boundaries

Just as setting boundaries is beneficial to relationships, NOT setting boundaries can come at a big cost. Listen to Yvette Erasmus share her experience with boundary setting, including: What are the costs to setting boundaries? What are the benefits? What are the possible next steps? She encourages you to not get attached to the outcome - be attached to revealing yourself and putting your heart...
Setting Loving Boundaries

agreements as you learn how to talk about your internal boundaries before they become painful issues in your relationships. Keywords: NVC Spirit boundary limits demand self care self revealing Yvette Erasmus
Boundaries and Exquisite Self-Care

are you willing to work with? What will you not allow? Every individual has different values and capacities. A large part of knowing your boundaries is about knowing yourself. In this video, Yvette Erasmus describes how and why exquisite self-care requires exquisite boundaries. Keywords: Yvette Erasmus boundaries self care